so much cleaning!
22 November 2020 08:55![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
m_d_hIf I lived here full-time at the condo, or somewhere else on my own, would I be as concerned about cleanliness as I am right now? I don't think I was this concerned about cleanliness back when I lived by myself from 1998-2004. How I tackled the rats nest underneath the TV immediately after K moved. How I ascertained and quickly took care of the plumbing leak. And now how I've spent hours cleaning the place this weekend -- I even got out the vacuum cleaner for the first time! It's going to require a deep cleaning every month or two, even if it's only me and I'm only here 10-20% of the time.
I think if I lived here I'd try to keep it clean, streamlined, and organized, much as K kept it. As little clutter as possible. So much of the stuff I have at the house would be gone. Which friend of mine would like to have all my board games? And which would like to have all my books? I'd downsize clothing.
If I lived here I'd cook at least half of my meals, like I do at the house -- so far I haven't cooked anything here, I've ordered delivery and brought pre-packaged snacks. There's practically nothing edible in the fridge or cupboards. But I'd make double or triple portions and save the rest for later, or I'd invite people over. I'd probably keep doing those meal kits, would need to do all the dishes myself even though I'm the cook -- T and I split those chores, if you didn't cook you do the dishes.
An efficiency condo like this one feels tight after living in a big house for 14 years, I'd probably prefer a 1BR, but I could live here and it would be affordable in retirement under my current below-market arrangement with K, in which I pay the net expenses while he keeps the equity. There's enough storage for all my toys, a desk to work from, and even enough room to exercise in when the weather sucks. I'd join a gym, though, after Quarantine, for weight lifting. I'd be ruthless about downsizing possessions and keeping only what I expect to use. First cutoff -- if I haven't used an item in the past year, get rid of it. Clothing I haven't worn, games I haven't played, books I haven't read, and all kinds of mementos. And if I lived here, we'd have to move some of K's remaining stuff out of the closets, of course.
Living alone here during Quarantine would've sucked. Like some people I know who live alone, I would've created a bubble of family and friends to see in person, even though we occupy separate households.
The last time I lived alone I was considering getting a cat. But after the current crop of three simultaneous pets -- as much as I love them -- I don't think I'll want to encumber my life that way again. I'm sure T would want pets again, it's part of our future incompatibility as retirement nears -- we'll want different lifestyles, in different locations, and T would probably continue working even after drawing his pension to support a more expensive lifestyle than I will want. I will no longer want to pay for (somewhat more than) half of our joint lifestyle.
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Practically zero transition anxiety this morning, because I acted more like I live here this weekend instead of stuffing it full of as much play time as possible, so there's not a pile of stuff to do this morning before I leave. Even had a sober Saturday night! Now I just have to brush teeth, shower, put away the few remaining items, and take the trash out as I leave.
Back to the house for lunch. T says we cannot finish doing the basement stuff yet because the new floor covering he ordered hasn't arrived yet, but I can resume shared meals with him, taking care of the pets, and unfortunately I have to work for a while this afternoon. Then a short work week followed by a 4-day weekend, of which I will likely spend two nights here at the condo again.
And I was randomly allowed an orgasm yesterday, so I'm much less riled up by my sex drive today, could be 7-14 days until I'm back to feeling crazy horny. I've been too lucky with the Cum Deck so far, two of my first six cards have allowed me orgasms. The rest of the cards will be less permissive -- roughly 200 days to go with 4 orgasms to go, so an orgasm every 50 days on average if I draw cards every day. If I wait two weeks until I'm super horny again, it could be months later that I get to cum. Or not!
I think if I lived here I'd try to keep it clean, streamlined, and organized, much as K kept it. As little clutter as possible. So much of the stuff I have at the house would be gone. Which friend of mine would like to have all my board games? And which would like to have all my books? I'd downsize clothing.
If I lived here I'd cook at least half of my meals, like I do at the house -- so far I haven't cooked anything here, I've ordered delivery and brought pre-packaged snacks. There's practically nothing edible in the fridge or cupboards. But I'd make double or triple portions and save the rest for later, or I'd invite people over. I'd probably keep doing those meal kits, would need to do all the dishes myself even though I'm the cook -- T and I split those chores, if you didn't cook you do the dishes.
An efficiency condo like this one feels tight after living in a big house for 14 years, I'd probably prefer a 1BR, but I could live here and it would be affordable in retirement under my current below-market arrangement with K, in which I pay the net expenses while he keeps the equity. There's enough storage for all my toys, a desk to work from, and even enough room to exercise in when the weather sucks. I'd join a gym, though, after Quarantine, for weight lifting. I'd be ruthless about downsizing possessions and keeping only what I expect to use. First cutoff -- if I haven't used an item in the past year, get rid of it. Clothing I haven't worn, games I haven't played, books I haven't read, and all kinds of mementos. And if I lived here, we'd have to move some of K's remaining stuff out of the closets, of course.
Living alone here during Quarantine would've sucked. Like some people I know who live alone, I would've created a bubble of family and friends to see in person, even though we occupy separate households.
The last time I lived alone I was considering getting a cat. But after the current crop of three simultaneous pets -- as much as I love them -- I don't think I'll want to encumber my life that way again. I'm sure T would want pets again, it's part of our future incompatibility as retirement nears -- we'll want different lifestyles, in different locations, and T would probably continue working even after drawing his pension to support a more expensive lifestyle than I will want. I will no longer want to pay for (somewhat more than) half of our joint lifestyle.
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Practically zero transition anxiety this morning, because I acted more like I live here this weekend instead of stuffing it full of as much play time as possible, so there's not a pile of stuff to do this morning before I leave. Even had a sober Saturday night! Now I just have to brush teeth, shower, put away the few remaining items, and take the trash out as I leave.
Back to the house for lunch. T says we cannot finish doing the basement stuff yet because the new floor covering he ordered hasn't arrived yet, but I can resume shared meals with him, taking care of the pets, and unfortunately I have to work for a while this afternoon. Then a short work week followed by a 4-day weekend, of which I will likely spend two nights here at the condo again.
And I was randomly allowed an orgasm yesterday, so I'm much less riled up by my sex drive today, could be 7-14 days until I'm back to feeling crazy horny. I've been too lucky with the Cum Deck so far, two of my first six cards have allowed me orgasms. The rest of the cards will be less permissive -- roughly 200 days to go with 4 orgasms to go, so an orgasm every 50 days on average if I draw cards every day. If I wait two weeks until I'm super horny again, it could be months later that I get to cum. Or not!