even though you are

[m_d_h]

but there are two aspects to irrational feelings -- you have to allow yourself to feel them, and you have to employ rational counterarguments -- the paradox of therapy -- there's nothing wrong with you, but here's another way of thinking about it and then feeling about it, but take your time, I'm here for you with unconditional positive regard, there is nothing wrong with you, even though you are unfixable