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[Cast of characters introduced in this entry: T -- a man I have lived with in the suburbs since 2005, our relationship is now best described as platonic old friends & housemates who are still often thought of as a couple by family & coworkers. KWC -- a man I lived with as monogamous partners from 1992 until 1998, now my oldest friend. K -- a man with whom I currently share a downtown condo, our relationship has survived many twists and turns over the past 12 years, nowadays we are in a "secondary" polyamorous relationship with occasional BDSM elements. B -- a man who T has been dating for several years, although through many twists and turns of their own.]
A full day. Ran 4 miles, worked 8 hours, cooked dinner, then sat with T as we drank a glass of wine. Tomorrow will be full also, until around 4pm probably, when I hope to quit work. I expect to get up early, do chores, pack for overnight, then drive to Virginia to visit KWC briefly -- my first social visit outside of my Quarantine Bubble! -- to drop off a thumb drive with some of his old pictures on it.
Long long ago, in 2010, I'd lent KWC an ancient laptop of mine, an iBook G4 from 2004. He used it for several years, and stored a gigabyte of pictures on it, then gave it back to me in 2016. I had no use for it, it sits in my closet. But we had no way to get the gigabyte of pictures off it at the time, not that I could figure out. The iBook was too old, the size of the files too big, and KWC didn't have a new laptop, all he had was a new iPad that we couldn't sync to such an old iBook.
Earlier this summer, KWC asked me again if I could transfer his old pictures off the laptop. He still only has an iPad. He thought we should take it to a Genius Bar. I thought about how I'd do it -- I know more about how Macs operate now. I even took apart my MacBook Pro a few weeks ago to replace the cooling fan. But I've been overly busy and that felt like just another chore.
Finally this week I had some time, so I copied the files across the house LAN to my own laptop, and then onto a thumb drive. KWC's boyfriend has a new Dell laptop, they'll be able to copy the files from the thumb drive onto that new laptop. Anyway, I'm driving to Virginia in the morning before work to drop off the thumb drive and say hello to KWC. I will likely remain outside his condo and talk to him a bit from a short distance, then I'll drive to my & K's downtown condo and work from there by myself until 4pm.
I'll spend the night at the condo, a break from T and the pets. It looks like K will join me for the night :-) I'll check with T on Saturday morning about whether to spend a second night at the condo or drive back to the house for the remainder of the weekend. I'd hoped that T would get to have B over to the house while I spent time at the condo, but that's not happening yet. I'm mystified as to why they aren't spending more time together, now that B is reportedly breaking things off with his other fella. More B time for T, I thought, but that hasn't happened yet.
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Lots of fellas who are or have been in lots of relationships with each other in this post. I'm gay and poly and tend to stay friends with the people I've dated. I tend to meet my long-term partners through mutual friends. I met KWC at a gay bar via a mutual friend. Ditto for T. I met K at a gay bar via T. T and I met B at a gay wedding, we were all friends with M. Oh, let's save talking about M for another time ;-)
Although over the past two years I was getting pretty good at meeting guys on my own for sex, via hookup apps and a local gay bar, before Quarantine hit, I sorta wonder whether my next significant relationship will also be somebody I meet through a friend. I think it was our Christmas Eve party last year when I met a guy via a friend, got a crush on him, and thought maybe that crush would go somewhere. It didn't. I don't know why, the guy simply didn't return my attentions over the next couple weeks so I stopped bugging him. It sounded like he was still grieving a significant breakup, was probably not a good time for something mutual.
I doubt I'm getting a crush on anybody new until After the Vaccine. I've deleted the hookup apps until then, I'm not going to gay bars until then, and not spending time in person with anybody who isn't already in my closest of circles. Until now, I've only spent time in person with T, K, and B. KWC will be only the fourth person since March.
A full day. Ran 4 miles, worked 8 hours, cooked dinner, then sat with T as we drank a glass of wine. Tomorrow will be full also, until around 4pm probably, when I hope to quit work. I expect to get up early, do chores, pack for overnight, then drive to Virginia to visit KWC briefly -- my first social visit outside of my Quarantine Bubble! -- to drop off a thumb drive with some of his old pictures on it.
Long long ago, in 2010, I'd lent KWC an ancient laptop of mine, an iBook G4 from 2004. He used it for several years, and stored a gigabyte of pictures on it, then gave it back to me in 2016. I had no use for it, it sits in my closet. But we had no way to get the gigabyte of pictures off it at the time, not that I could figure out. The iBook was too old, the size of the files too big, and KWC didn't have a new laptop, all he had was a new iPad that we couldn't sync to such an old iBook.
Earlier this summer, KWC asked me again if I could transfer his old pictures off the laptop. He still only has an iPad. He thought we should take it to a Genius Bar. I thought about how I'd do it -- I know more about how Macs operate now. I even took apart my MacBook Pro a few weeks ago to replace the cooling fan. But I've been overly busy and that felt like just another chore.
Finally this week I had some time, so I copied the files across the house LAN to my own laptop, and then onto a thumb drive. KWC's boyfriend has a new Dell laptop, they'll be able to copy the files from the thumb drive onto that new laptop. Anyway, I'm driving to Virginia in the morning before work to drop off the thumb drive and say hello to KWC. I will likely remain outside his condo and talk to him a bit from a short distance, then I'll drive to my & K's downtown condo and work from there by myself until 4pm.
I'll spend the night at the condo, a break from T and the pets. It looks like K will join me for the night :-) I'll check with T on Saturday morning about whether to spend a second night at the condo or drive back to the house for the remainder of the weekend. I'd hoped that T would get to have B over to the house while I spent time at the condo, but that's not happening yet. I'm mystified as to why they aren't spending more time together, now that B is reportedly breaking things off with his other fella. More B time for T, I thought, but that hasn't happened yet.
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Lots of fellas who are or have been in lots of relationships with each other in this post. I'm gay and poly and tend to stay friends with the people I've dated. I tend to meet my long-term partners through mutual friends. I met KWC at a gay bar via a mutual friend. Ditto for T. I met K at a gay bar via T. T and I met B at a gay wedding, we were all friends with M. Oh, let's save talking about M for another time ;-)
Although over the past two years I was getting pretty good at meeting guys on my own for sex, via hookup apps and a local gay bar, before Quarantine hit, I sorta wonder whether my next significant relationship will also be somebody I meet through a friend. I think it was our Christmas Eve party last year when I met a guy via a friend, got a crush on him, and thought maybe that crush would go somewhere. It didn't. I don't know why, the guy simply didn't return my attentions over the next couple weeks so I stopped bugging him. It sounded like he was still grieving a significant breakup, was probably not a good time for something mutual.
I doubt I'm getting a crush on anybody new until After the Vaccine. I've deleted the hookup apps until then, I'm not going to gay bars until then, and not spending time in person with anybody who isn't already in my closest of circles. Until now, I've only spent time in person with T, K, and B. KWC will be only the fourth person since March.
